Poll after poll indicates that people aren't happy and I think I know the reason why; we have betrayed our children, and nobody wants to talk about it.
I have been a fan of everything you write. So honest and sincere and pretty sharp. When is your next book coming? I have "stay put, be happy...." Hugs Frank!
I don't fit this scenario. I got married young, was Christian, had 6 children by the time I was 32. Got divorced when my youngest child was 7 months old..then was diagnosed with breast cancer.. had a mastectomy and a year of chemo. Life was a blur after that, everything went down hill...pretty sure I had a nervous breakdown or an undiagnosed Autistic burnout. I lost everything, and went home to my parents to recover, found a job and an apartment, spent the next 29 years bouncing around in the work force..and trying to find myself.. and never got out of poverty. If not for my family support, there were many times I would probably have been on the street or dead by now.
I watched a family ordering a meal at a restaurant. The little girl, freshly out of daycare, was chattering about her day. Her mother was listening. Her father was totally captivated by his phone and said absolutely nothing other than to mutter his order.
This country is no longer anything remotely resembling a democracy--or a republic; but it's an outright oligarchy that has taken full advantage of the anti-child feminist movement of the 60s and 70s. The leaders of that movement belittled motherhood so that young women felt they were not living up to their potential if they stayed with their children instead of spending 60 hours a week thinking they're climbing the ladder. (But I'm encouraged by 2-3 young mothers I know whose family are biting the bullet while they stay with their children.)
In reality, the "ladder" is controlled by white male oligarchs whose ladders end at the C level. But women keep up the modern liberal feminist facade because it's "in."
Mothers, Fathers, Teachers, a decent country needs them all--but what we've got in this country is a cult of evangelical/republicans whose entire purpose is to tear down. (In a sane world, these churches would be convicted of mass child abuse for creating such fear in children).
And liberals---don't get me started. Watch "Boogie Nights" again. THAT's what liberals are shooting for---a good time. "Cheers." "Thirty Something." "Seinfeld." They mostly just want a good time. Sex. Booze. And a treetop box at the stadium.
Anybody read "Oryx and Crake"?
And I disagree that much of anyone feels guilt---the oligarchs get the best for THEIR kids and have zero concern for anyone else---especially anyone whose skin doesn't match their own hue. Their wives know and accept that when plastic surgery no longer works they'll be dumped---so their lawyers negotiate a favorable prenup and by the time the trophy wife comes along, they're sick of him anyway. They'll take the house in Malibu and the alimony and the settlement and good riddance.
I think a lot of what you said is true and my question is, what do we do now? I am very lucky with 2 grown daughters whom are married and I have 3 grandchildren so far. However, I am very anxious about our/their future and want to be part of the solution.
Hard to hear. But (I think), sad to say, largely true. I am 70 years old now, retired, married to the same spouse for 45 years, with 3 grown sons, only one of which is in a serious relationship, and I don't know if even the one who is (in a relationship) will have children. I envy you your grand kids, and I envy your grand kid's relationship with you (something my geographically dispersed family never really allowed). I hate to sound like a corporate wank, but we need a step by step action plan (something other than simply storming the billionaire enclaves with pitchforks and torches - which I have to admit would be totally satisfying . . . for about 5 minutes) something that started with maybe changing our own selves first, before changing everyone else. Sounds like a job for a religion (or the framework of one), but that's a pill many will not want to swallow . . . for obvious reasons.
Not 100% with everything you're saying (feminism has evolved, eg, so we need differentiate between diff flavors, etc); but, as you say, reasonable minds should always look for nuance. This is a very important post, though. Completely agree on the algorithms and their harms. And we need stop putting it all on the kids to fix themselves, and fix their environments. It's up to the adults.
Calvinism then was the problem and real reason for your dissolution. Augustinian/Calvinistic false doctrine, needs to be rejected. If you want your Spiritual mojo back and enjoy the abundant hopeful life promised by The LORD Jesus, check out Dr. Flowers at soteriology101.
I have been a fan of everything you write. So honest and sincere and pretty sharp. When is your next book coming? I have "stay put, be happy...." Hugs Frank!
I don't fit this scenario. I got married young, was Christian, had 6 children by the time I was 32. Got divorced when my youngest child was 7 months old..then was diagnosed with breast cancer.. had a mastectomy and a year of chemo. Life was a blur after that, everything went down hill...pretty sure I had a nervous breakdown or an undiagnosed Autistic burnout. I lost everything, and went home to my parents to recover, found a job and an apartment, spent the next 29 years bouncing around in the work force..and trying to find myself.. and never got out of poverty. If not for my family support, there were many times I would probably have been on the street or dead by now.
Thank you.
I watched a family ordering a meal at a restaurant. The little girl, freshly out of daycare, was chattering about her day. Her mother was listening. Her father was totally captivated by his phone and said absolutely nothing other than to mutter his order.
This country is no longer anything remotely resembling a democracy--or a republic; but it's an outright oligarchy that has taken full advantage of the anti-child feminist movement of the 60s and 70s. The leaders of that movement belittled motherhood so that young women felt they were not living up to their potential if they stayed with their children instead of spending 60 hours a week thinking they're climbing the ladder. (But I'm encouraged by 2-3 young mothers I know whose family are biting the bullet while they stay with their children.)
In reality, the "ladder" is controlled by white male oligarchs whose ladders end at the C level. But women keep up the modern liberal feminist facade because it's "in."
Mothers, Fathers, Teachers, a decent country needs them all--but what we've got in this country is a cult of evangelical/republicans whose entire purpose is to tear down. (In a sane world, these churches would be convicted of mass child abuse for creating such fear in children).
And liberals---don't get me started. Watch "Boogie Nights" again. THAT's what liberals are shooting for---a good time. "Cheers." "Thirty Something." "Seinfeld." They mostly just want a good time. Sex. Booze. And a treetop box at the stadium.
Anybody read "Oryx and Crake"?
And I disagree that much of anyone feels guilt---the oligarchs get the best for THEIR kids and have zero concern for anyone else---especially anyone whose skin doesn't match their own hue. Their wives know and accept that when plastic surgery no longer works they'll be dumped---so their lawyers negotiate a favorable prenup and by the time the trophy wife comes along, they're sick of him anyway. They'll take the house in Malibu and the alimony and the settlement and good riddance.
I think a lot of what you said is true and my question is, what do we do now? I am very lucky with 2 grown daughters whom are married and I have 3 grandchildren so far. However, I am very anxious about our/their future and want to be part of the solution.
Hard to hear. But (I think), sad to say, largely true. I am 70 years old now, retired, married to the same spouse for 45 years, with 3 grown sons, only one of which is in a serious relationship, and I don't know if even the one who is (in a relationship) will have children. I envy you your grand kids, and I envy your grand kid's relationship with you (something my geographically dispersed family never really allowed). I hate to sound like a corporate wank, but we need a step by step action plan (something other than simply storming the billionaire enclaves with pitchforks and torches - which I have to admit would be totally satisfying . . . for about 5 minutes) something that started with maybe changing our own selves first, before changing everyone else. Sounds like a job for a religion (or the framework of one), but that's a pill many will not want to swallow . . . for obvious reasons.
Not 100% with everything you're saying (feminism has evolved, eg, so we need differentiate between diff flavors, etc); but, as you say, reasonable minds should always look for nuance. This is a very important post, though. Completely agree on the algorithms and their harms. And we need stop putting it all on the kids to fix themselves, and fix their environments. It's up to the adults.
Thank you!
Calvinism then was the problem and real reason for your dissolution. Augustinian/Calvinistic false doctrine, needs to be rejected. If you want your Spiritual mojo back and enjoy the abundant hopeful life promised by The LORD Jesus, check out Dr. Flowers at soteriology101.